Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

A Short Haircut


It's been a while since my last post, but I felt the need to update the world on the latest happenings in my home. This week, Josh got a haircut. A little trim. He looks pretty handsome. And boy, did that haircut ever make me pleased. So Josh had been occupying himself upstairs while I was on the phone (it always happens when we are on the phone, right?) and when he came down he had this sweet little smile on his face. I thought it was because of his outfit, but it only took me a couple seconds to see what his smile was really about. I had to cover my mouth to keep myself from laughing, because you're not supposed to laugh at this sort of thing, are you? I kept my cool and made reference to him wanting a short haircut. He thought it was funny, until he realized that I was serious. If he wanted a short haircut, I'd be more than happy to give him one. I didn't think too long about it and proceeded to march him into the kitchen so I could cut the rest of it for him. Josh proceeded to scream and cry that he didn't want a short hair cut. Well, he should've thought about that before. And I couldn't help but be pleased with my undelayed reaction.


Thursday, December 30, 2010

Ain't He Sweet?


Josh and I had a real good night together tonight. Adam had gone out for the evening and the little guy and I had already been to the outlet mall together making returns at four different stores. It's not always a fun thing to do, going to the store with Josh, but this time he had a little motivation to be good. He had spied one or two of those coin operated ride on toys that are conveniently placed outside of stores to tempt small children, and was so hoping for a ride on one. I have never let Josh ride on one before, and in the first store we went into he didn't use his "best listening ears" and I told him he couldn't sit on one despite his desperate pleas. But he would not be too discouraged, and was on his absolute best behavior in the remaining stores in hopes that he could earn some brownie points. This was the start of a very nice evening together. When a small child is doing his best to please his or her parent, the parent is going to be a little more, let's say generous, than normal. (Kid's make sure you learn this while you are young.) Let's suffice it to say that before we left the outlet mall, Josh got his ride on the Mickey Mouse fire engine.

So our good evening continued on together. We ate our supper together, just the two of us. I offered him a choice of reading our new storybook together or cleaning the basement, and much to my amusement, he chose cleaning the basement together. He helped me get the newspaper ready for starting a fire on our wood stove, and wrinkled much to much paper. He dusted the tables while I swept the floor. We shared hot cocoa in his new Sponge Bob mugs he received from our family gift exchange at Christmas. I helped the little guy with his bath, though we made sure that his bath toys would not go down the drain before we filled the tub. And then we looked at the new Highlight's magazine that came in the mail, thanks to Aunt Leta. After wards, we delved into our new storybook, The Jeremy Mouse book, by Patricia Scarry. I decided that I like her stories. By the end of our evening together, Josh and I were both in such good moods. He was tucked into bed very pleasantly with two of his tractors and I didn't hear another peep from him. I guess our good night wore him out. I like being a Mommy. :)

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Thoughts

After working six straight days in a row, I am very much ready for a week off. And that is just what I shall get. *Big smiles* My friend Carissa is coming home for the week and will be working for me at the daycare all next week. I am so ready to catch up on things at home. Though it appears that someone who loves me has straightened up around home today while I was at work. I came home to my bed made, laundry taken to the basement and living room tidied. Even the table was cleared off! What a guy! I think he realized that I needed a little help this week. I am so pleasantly surprised.

I have found that in the past couple weeks, as I have tried to be less controlling, Adam has been more involved in the active disciplining of Josh. I have been less quick to intervene and more hands off when Adam is at home. And my Mom has been proved right, that when the wife steps back, the husband will step in, concerning their children or child. I am really enjoying watching my guys interact with each other... Josh just adores his Daddy and the other day we convinced him to finish eating his supper just by telling him he needed to eat his supper so he could have strong muscles like his Daddy. Adam showed Josh his big muscles and then we encouraged him to eat more. Josh promptly finished his last two bites so he could be strong just like his Daddy.

Thanks again for all your prayers after I posted this. Marriage is a wonderful and hard growing process. And raising children together certainly can put a strain on even *perfect* relationship. We all have our own way of doing things and I know God uses parenting to teach us so much about ourselves. I am a slow learner, but lately it's been a bit easier to "let go and let God". And I know it's due to the prayers and advice of those who care about us. Much love to you all.

Saturday, April 03, 2010

Discipline and The Act of It

I think we need help. Our opinions differ sooo much. We have no idea how to discipline a child *together*. We don't agree one bit. And I am ready to give up. Fine. If you don't like how I do it, then you do it. All by yourself. Don't come in and tell me to apologize. I'm not sorry and I think he deserved it. I am tired of being told not to do something right in front of small child. No wonder he cries, "Daddy, daddy!" all the time. No wonder he doesn't care what I say. I think we need to have a series of "consultations" with older, wiser couples who have had years of experience raising and disciplining children. Maybe I am too strict. But if I am, I would like to know how I should be doing it, and still get my child to listen to me, to sit when he is supposed to sit, to be quiet when it is time to be quiet, and to respect me, and those who need to be respected. And I think we need to be able to agree on how to raise this boy. Right now there is still time to get our act together. But we don't have long until he could morph into a monster who knows exactly how to divide and conquer his parents to his benefit. So, yes. I am asking for help. How do we come together as one parental unit and actually begin acting like it?